The Locks That Block Growth!
“More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5 ESV
Many women are returning to their God-given natural roots, yet so many are not willing to completely embrace their natural hair textures. This discontentment is due to them not experiencing the growth, or desired look, that they were hoping for, which leaves them with the question of why and wondering if they should even continue their natural hair journeys. The answer is the same reason that so many people aren’t seeing spiritual growth. They’re comparing themselves (hair goals and life goals) to others around them hoping for the same results when God created each of us differently. Even though we have some similarities and commonalities, we each were uniquely and specially made. Take peace and comfort knowing that God did not make any mistakes creating you; for the Bible says, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” (Psalm 139:14) It is important that we stop using someone else’s ruler to measure ourselves because in doing so we will always come up short. Romans 12:2 reminds us, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Therefore, make a commitment to being disciplined with your routines, temperament, and time so that you will begin to see growth with your natural hair and spiritual life.
Shortly after I started my spiritual journey, I didn’t give returning to my natural roots a second thought. I knew it was the right thing to do since I was born into the world with a head full of natural hair. It only stopped being natural when the decision was made in my preteen years to relax it in hopes of ending the challenge it presented to maintain and style. But the devil is a “lye” and I refuse to continue listening to the lies that were trying to tell me, “Why bother being a Christian? You’re a sinner and always will be. Your hair is nappy and you’re ugly. You need to perm it for others to accept you.” Lies, all lies! Statements like these are far from the truth and are schemes of the enemy trying to attack the mind to get you to conform to the world’s ideologies, desires, and standards. Thankfully, I returned to my Lord & Savior and He redeemed me. I have armed myself with the full armor of God so that I may stand against the attacks of the enemy. I have learned how to exercise more patience and have a positive attitude when different challenges arise. When it comes to my kinky hair, I don’t have any unrealistic expectations of making it become something that it’s not such as having a looser curl pattern. Having these unrealistic expectations will only set a person up for failure. I love the results that I am seeing and because I am staying disciplined with my routines, temperament, and time, others are beginning to see my progress as well. I have been told that my growth is encouraging for them to start, or continue on, their journeys instead of giving up.
I highly recommend that you evaluate your natural hair and spiritual journeys by checking to see if the following locks are blocking your growth. Your purpose in this life is far bigger than you and your growth will help inspire the next person to stay the course and be successful.
Lock #1: Inconsistency - Are you inconsistent with your natural hair care and spiritual warfare routines? Being inconsistent can definitely block your growth. It is defined as not staying the same throughout or varying your actions and/or practices. Biblically, consistency is defined as patience meaning remaining constant under all circumstances. You can’t be dedicated to the process of caring for your natural hair and spiritual growth, but then all of a sudden (for whatever reason) neglect your previous commitment. Doing so only leads to failure. Hebrews 10:35-36 teaches us, “Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of patience, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised.” Having beautiful, healthy long hair as well as a successful spiritual life is completely possible. After all, it’s what God promises to those who believe, and He will deliver. You just need to develop healthy habits such as starting a natural hair care regimen and incorporating a daily spiritual routine. Once you fully submit to these processes, favor (success) will begin to find you. Be faithful and consistent in maintaining these practices; don’t be too quick to deviate when a new product or brand enters the market. Don’t allow distractions to keep you from your daily spiritual rituals. Don’t be lazy and skip important steps in these routines. Ultimately, have patience when your hair doesn't behave the way you want it to or when situations in life don't turn out how you think it should or how you planned. Start a journal to help keep you on track with both journeys.
Lock #2: Discontentment - Are you temperamental when faced with challenges on your natural hair and spiritual journeys? Being temperamental means having a poor attitude or being moody. Basically, it means that too often you are discontent when dealing with your natural hair and spiritual life. This feeling of discontentment can stunt your growth because you are not emotionally, mentally, or physically stable to overcome the many obstacles that are on the road blocking your success. Emotionally, what’s causing your negative feelings? What has you mentally thinking that you are defeated? Is your physical health causing some of this discontent? You must address these many issues in order to continue on your natural hair and spiritual journeys. If you have unrealistic expectations, it can affect your temperament when your life or hair doesn’t live up to those expectations. For example, when you watch a YouTube tutorial that ends with perfectly flawless curls, it doesn’t mean you will experience the same results even though you perform the exact same process using the same products and techniques. Those tutorials are guides and other people’s testimonies to what worked for them. Now, I’m not saying don’t follow other people’s advice or don’t have big expectations because it is completely possible to have the same outcome. What I am saying is keep your attitude in check when things don’t go according to plan. Let your failures fuel your fire and the desire to achieve success. Attitude is everything, so keep it 100%! SN: Here’s some cool information about the word “attitude.” Since there are 26 letters in the alphabet, let’s give each letter a numerical value according to its place along the alphabet spectrum. A = 1, B = 2, C = 3, D = 4 etc. Add the numerical value of each letter in “attitude” and see what you get. Yep, that’s right! You get a value of 100. Always remember that, “…the overseer must be above reproach as God’s steward, not self-willed, not quick-tempered…” (Titus 1:7)
Lock #3: Procrastination - Are you a procrastinator when the time comes to care for your natural hair or take the next step in your walk with God? Being a procrastinator means to delay doing something until a later time because you do not want to do it or are too lazy. Procrastination delays your growth because you have programmed yourself to believe that you have more time to complete necessary tasks than you really actually have. It also delays your growth because it adds extra stress when you’re faced with a deadline and time becomes limited. Benjamin Franklin once said, “You may delay, but time will not, and lost time is never found again.” To see growth with your natural hair and spiritual life, stop putting things off for tomorrow when you really need to be doing them today. This means you need to start devoting time to care for your natural hair and to feed your spiritual soul. If you develop these routines, as suggested before, it becomes easier to plan ahead and use your time wisely. Let’s take a step back for a moment. Have you ever asked yourself why you procrastinate? You should probably start there to discover the reasons why you are always putting things off. You may realize that perhaps you have formed some misconceptions about hair care and spiritual warfare. Write down your preconceived notions about these two topics and do some research. Ask another knowledgeable person in the field to help clarify and clear up your questions. Whatever you do, for the love of growth, stop procrastinating! The bible says, “The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied." (Proverbs 13:4)
Make up your mind today to be consistent, even tempered, and wise with your time so that you may begin to unlock the growth potential of your hair, heart, mind, and soul. 1 Timothy 4:15 says, “Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress.” You have the keys, but it’s up to you to use them to unlock the blocks that bind your growth.
Question: Do you agree that inconsistency, your attitude, and procrastination are hindering your growth process? Why or why not? What do you believe is holding you back? Leave a comment below.